12/10/22 12:17 Filed in: Intuition
Have we ever struggled to make a decision or enter into a commitment because we didn’t trust our ability to make the right choice? How many times have we gotten a feeling in the pit of our stomach that something was not right? Did we pay attention to our intuition or did we ignore it? Deep in our core, we know what is best for us. So why don’t we trust that?
Some of us were taught as a child that we can’t trust ourselves. Maybe we weren’t able to trust our loved ones or our loved ones were unable to trust us. Sometimes life experiences shatter our trust in ourselves. Perhaps we recall an event in which we trusted ourselves and the outcome was disastrous and painful. The inability to trust ourselves stems from not knowing who we are and what’s important to us. Other times, we know what is right for us we fail to honour that because of fear, external pressure, or a belief that we are not worthy.
Sometimes we do make decisions that don’t turn out as planned. Sometimes, the red flags are there, and we ignore them. Other times, we truly make the best decision we can. Ask any successful entrepreneur about her process of decision making. She will probably tell us she weighed all the pros and cons and tried to anticipate any problems. She might have looked to the experts for helpful insight. In the end, she made the most informed decision she could. If we ask her if all her decisions were the right ones, she will tell us no. Life changes; people change. Just because something doesn’t work out the way we wanted does not mean we cannot trust ourself in the future.
Trusting ourselves is essential to loving ourselves. We know ourselves better than anyone and no one is going to take care of us except us. Until we trust ourselves, we will not be able to fully trust anyone. When we don’t trust ourselves, we will seek guidance from everyone else. Our life will be outer-focused, and people will make decisions about our life for us.
Make our personal decisions based on what’s most important to us and what works best for us. We may ask other people’s opinions as long as we are willing to pay most attention to our feelings. If we are unsure of ourselves, take the time to really listen to our gut. If we have a relationship with a Higher Power, spend time in prayer or meditation and ask that the truth be revealed to us.
During my Spiritual Coaching training, we were taught to listen to our intuition. A lot of us questioned how we know if we’re right? In other words, how do we know for sure if we can trust ourselves? We don’t know for sure unless we test it out. We were instructed as Spiritual Coaches to blurt out what our intuition was telling us, and then wait to see how the client responds. The more we test our intuition and discover that it’s telling the truth, the more we begin to trust ourselves.
So try some experiments. The next time we feel confused about a decision, pay attention to our gut-level reaction. Don’t rationalize or talk ourselves out of our feelings. Go with it and see how it turns out. We may even make a list of times we trust our intuition and things go well. The more we practice trusting ourselves, the easier it will become. If we trust ourselves and find out later it was a mistake, learn from it and move on. It’s okay to be wrong. It’s better to trust ourselves and be wrong than to not trust ourselves at all.
12/10/22 12:14 Filed in: Intuition
All of us were created with an innate inner wisdom which guides our lives, serves as an inner “truth meter” and helps us to make important decisions at critical turning points in our lives. Some call this natural gift intuition, spiritual guidance or “gut feelings”.
Each of us connects to intuition in our own unique ways. Those with artistic or musical gifts may call upon their muse to inspire them with creative ideas. Those whose work involves great physical or mental endurance may connect with their inner wisdom by challenging themselves deeply to break through the barriers that usually stand between themselves and their inner gifts. Some of us may live very busy lives with little time to tune into our inner guidance, our dreams serve as messengers to share with us the important information we may have tuned out in the midst of a busy day.
Our intuition is a profound gift which connects our embodied physical self with our divine spiritual essence. The soul communicates with our embodied self through this line of light, and we develop this inner connection over time through meditation, prayer, and the desire to know ourselves more deeply.
Our intuition is of great benefit at all times in our lives, and especially during times of great stress or difficulty. In situations where we are facing unanticipated challenges such as the loss of a loved one or an illness, many intense emotions arise from within us. Our habitual supports are removed or shaken, which causes us to feel unmoored, adrift, without anything to hold onto.
Our intuition acts as a guiding compass, pointing us instinctively towards the support we need to get through the difficulties we are facing. When our minds fail us because we feel overwhelmed, the voice of our inner wisdom speaks clearly and will repeat itself as often as necessary.
If we are accustomed to being in control of our lives, and then suddenly are faced with a situation we cannot manage, we may feel frightened and desperate because our usual methods of coping no longer are working. Intuition however, will always work, even in the direst of circumstances, because our embodied human self in the physical world is always connected with our larger spiritual self.
In a time of challenge or crisis, our spiritual support systems are activated from the spiritual realms. Our connection with intuition or guidance is strengthened, and those loving beings in the spiritual realms that watch over us and guide our lives provide extra assistance.
If we have become accustomed to discounting our inner wisdom, or have simply shut down the intuitive parts of ourselves through years of neglect, it may feel as though we cannot find the thread of light that would re-connect us to our source. It is important to understand that no matter how disconnected we become from our divine inner wisdom, it is always present and available to us. Even if we have erected barriers to shut out our inner guidance for a time, these may be removed by our diligent prayer, meditation, and intention.
If we have been disconnected from ourselves for a very long time, the process of reconnecting will often bring up old emotions, thoughts and memories that we may have hidden from ourselves that we were not ready to deal with. During this re-balancing phase, it is helpful to participate in some kind of regular spiritual or emotional support system that helps stabilize our inner connection with spirit.
One of the most challenging aspects of the healing process is remembering that emotions and memories from the past are coming up in order to be healed and released. A support system helps us to anchor in the strength of our inner being, to allow the emotions and feelings to pass through us and to release from our body, mind and spirit.
As this cleansing process happens, intuition and inner wisdom are naturally strengthened, for there are fewer barriers between ourselves and our spirit. This deeper inner connection provides a source of wisdom, freedom, empowerment and comfort during difficult times, and will sustain us throughout life with greater love, joy and peace. Inner wisdom is a great gift, and is intended not only to bless our individual lives, and to share with others to bless all of life by our connection with the divine.
12/10/22 12:11 Filed in: Elements
A combination of elements in a relationship can create a loving balance; thereby resulting in a relationship that thrives on mutual growth and harmony. Two well matched combinations are an Air-Fire relationship or and an Earth-Water relationship.
The element Air in a relationship provides ideas and dreams that Fire can act on and forge into reality. The element Water provides sensitivity and nurturing to the sometimes cold reserved Earthly approach to matters, thereby laying the
groundwork for future growth in the relationship.
At the same time remember in a Fire/Water relationship, balance can be achieved by realizing that Water injects needed sensitivity and patience into the Fire sign. At the same time, Fire adds drive and the courage to act that may be lacking in the Water signs.
When two elements of the same type combine, harmony is achieved when the needs and traits are the same for both. However, it hinders growth when both individuals may become too comfortable to a point that the needed spark for growth may be lacking.
In a Fire/Earth combination we find that fire’s initiative and drive stimulates the sometimes laid back and reserved nature of Earth. At the same time, Earth’s practicality and discipline balance Fire’s sometimes quick to act ways. Ideally we should strive for a balance of the elements Earth/Water and Air/Fire.
The other combinations also work as long as both partners respect the other's needs and unique traits that both bring to the relationship. And they must utilize each other's strengths to bring balance.
12/10/22 12:07 Filed in: Elements
Empedocles, a Greek philosopher-scientist and healer who lived in Sicily in the fifth century B.C., believed that all matter comprises the four elements: earth, air, fire and water. Fire and air are outwardly reaching elements, reaching up and out, whereas earth and water turn inward and downward.
The Four Elements also describe the four unique personality types associated with the zodiac signs. The elements exhibit profound influence on basic character traits, behaviour, emotions, thinking and intuition. They are reflected in our relationships, our ambitions or lack thereof, and the unexpected turns and twists that add spice to our lives.
Astrology aims to help us to better focus our energies, gain a better understanding of our positive traits, and deal with the negative ones. We use this knowledge to realize our full potential and live our best life. We all need air to breathe, water to cleanse us and sustain our growth, fire to shelter us from the cold and nourish us, earth to live on together with all the living things and to grow our food. All the elements are equally important and below is a more in depth description of each.
Astrology: Taurus, Capricorn, Virgo
Feel the Earth under our feet, the soil that sustains all forms of life. Look at the power and beauty of the mountains, a symbol of stability and solidity of the earth. Everyday we experience the physical world, we walk on this earth, enjoy
the beauty and bounty of Mother Earth and feel the comfort of being on solid ground.
Associated with the signs Taurus, Capricorn and Virgo, Earth represents the practical, realistic material side of our nature, it seeks to assert a stable, secure and structured environment into which we may function. Feel the earth under our feet, solid and steady as we walk slowly. Earth is patient and reliable. It is solid and strong. To be on solid ground encourages one to seek the practical and most logical answer to a problem.
Earth may stabilize a relationship contributing structure and organization to achieve balance and harmony. Earth sustains growth- such as a planted acorn grows into an oak tree; so do humans grow from youth to maturity, and realize the immense growth in every facet of life.
The over-expression of this element may produce a stubborn and rigid personality, one that strives to remain in the comfort zone in life, afraid to take risks. It is also seen by a love of the material side of life, the comforts of material well-being. Material worth may be overemphasized and this may also lead to stressful worrisome situations.
Weakness: attachment, stinginess, materialism, resistant to change, too much attention to detail and missing the big picture.
Astrology: Gemini, Libra, Aquarius
The element Air is associated with the signs Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius. It seeks to establish itself in the realm of the intellect. It is through the process of
thinking that we develop ideas. It is through the influence of this element that we learn to communicate. Through air we gain and share knowledge.
Air contributes inventiveness, originality and versatility to the personality. It gives that feeling of freedom, unattachment, it reaches out to the mental self. Enjoy that refreshing gentle breeze, allow thoughts to flow freely, and nourish the creative moment. Air expresses love of people, the ability to intellectualize, to appreciate the differences in people, accept different perspectives without which, there would be a lack of vision and human interaction.
Thoughts are a continual force in our lives. It is associated with meditation where deep breathing is essential to reach that level of stillness, energy, and relaxation. Air is used for transport, flying and sailing. Let our thoughts soar to reach our intellectual pursuits.
An over expression of air’s influence is seen as living in a dream world with unrealistic goals and flights of fancy. Air should seek to maintain practicality and develop consistency in dealing with the real world.
Weakness of this element: lack of emotion, depression, lack of connection with the higher self, overactive mind that blocks inner peace and harmony.
Astrology: Leo, Sagittarius, Aries
The signs Leo,Sagittarius and Aries are associated with the element Fire. It represents the life force glowing within us. This element projects self-expression, creativity, courage and enthusiasm. Feel the comforting warmth of a fire, or heat when we come in from the cold.
We need fire to meet the basic need of cooking our food. Fire provides a sense of security, warmth and inspiration that is shared with those around. Fire strengthens self-confidence to tackle problems without hesitation. Without fire, there is no radiance, no conviction, no expression. A spark lights up new ideas, serves as a beacon to light the way to achieve goals with conviction and enthusiasm.
An over expression of fire turns assertiveness into aggression, daring into reckless behaviour and so forth. When fire's influence is out of control, it seeks to consume all in its path.
Weakness: lack of interest, egotistic, excessive self-centredness, self-importance.
Astrology: Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces
The element Water is associated with the signs of Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces and influences the conscience and the subconscious forces that act on our lives.
The element water pours forth to others. It allows one to feel their pain and suffering and offer sincere compassion.
Psychic awareness is also present in the water signs and shows itself from time to time with uncanny accuracy. Water seeks to heal and nurture those around it.
Uncontrolled, this element sends emotions on a turbulent path resulting in moodiness and unpredictable highs and lows, like the crest and trough of a wave.
Water signs need serenity and calmness, like a gentle flowing river nurturing all in its wake and at the same time leading to the discovery of new paths. When over-expressed, one may tend to be overly emotional, deeply sensitive and subjective. With too much emotion, depression may result.
Weakness results from being too protective and possessive of our loved ones; a cold attitude and lack of drive may arise.
12/10/22 11:46 Filed in: Higher Self
Are we just a body with a personality? From my understanding, we are much more than that. Each one of us has a higher aspect. This higher aspect has been typically called the Higher Self. Others have also referred to it as the Over-soul or Over-self.
Who and what is the Higher Self? The Higher Self is the intelligence and wisdom aspect of our own self. Ironically, the Higher Self is impersonal and does not have a ‘sense of self’ like the way our personality is. Nevertheless, it serves as a guiding aspect for the personality or ego.
Can this elusive higher self be contacted? Yes, and typically it is done through meditation or some other altered states of consciousness.
A little bit about me. Around ten years ago, I discovered that if I am thinking hard about a subject that is of a spiritual inquiry, I will sometimes receive visions that attempt to answer my queries. Mostly the visions are symbolic. Higher self will communicate by impulsing symbols and visions that form messages into my awareness.
An example of such transmissions:
Some years ago, I was contemplating on the nature of the cycle of reincarnation. Will lost souls be forever looped within the lower realm? (According to many Eastern Beliefs, Beings who had not attained enlightenment will be caught in a vicious circle of perpetual birth and rebirth.) Suddenly, out of nowhere, I received a transmission from beyond my conscious mind. It came as a ‘download’, a burst of images, symbols and moods. Very fast, split second impressions. The download seemed to be received by the right hemisphere of my brain. My brain instinctively attempted to interpret the transmission before I lost it. How do I know it wasn’t my imagination? Well, firstly I do not think in pictures. I think in languages. Secondly, the transmitted images were performing a ‘dual-split’ to my consciousness. That is, the images are simultaneously overlaying my visual perception of the environment around me. Well, a ‘dual-split’ in consciousness is definitely not the usual way my mind works!
The animated vision was set against a light blue background. There were rings or bands of a lighter colour moving towards a centre point. Because the transmission was so fast, I think I might have lost some vital information. Anyway; here’s my interpretation. Please understand that it was my physical brain that did this interpretation. As such I can never be to sure about the accuracy of my interpretation:
“The transmission is attempting to correct errors or rather incompleteness within my understanding of the scheme of things. The cycle of reincarnation is never meant to last forever. Eventually all will return back to the Source or essence. ”
Well, that transmission was many years ago. My understanding on that matter has been refined since then. However, the transmission was appropriate (to my level of understanding) at that time.
Over the years, these vision transmissions from Higher Self, together with the guidance of enlightened physical teachers, have helped me to understand the dynamics of consciousness and the universe greatly.